A Nigerian nurse who works in the UK has challenged the idea of a guy splitting expenses with his partner.
She declared that she adheres to the long-standing custom that a man should provide for his family as the head of the household.
According to the lady identified as Nursemj, any man who is not strong enough to provide for a family should not be considering marriage,
However, she went on to say that, in her opinion, a couple or soon-to-be couple needs to have an early talk about how to split expenses.
She stated that the majority of African men dislike the idea of dividing expenses, but exposure to other cultures abroad is changing them.
She said that a wife should have the freedom to choose whether or not to support her spouse; it should not be required.
She wrote;
“This splitting bills is a very important discussion!!! It should come earlier in dating… I personally I’m 100% against any woman splitting bills with any man! I don’t care the percentage! It will never make sense to me… Yes it’s reasonable to support the family where necessary!
But splitting bills???? like giving me a percentage to cover is BS! & I’m 100% not doing that! If you’re not MAN enough to take care of a Family you have no business getting married! I’m not a feminist btw… so I believe in “Man is the head of the family”. Be a man! Period.
“Most African never liked the idea of splitting bills with their wife, they found it ridiculous, but small years abroad, they start copying other people’s culture. I’m not saying as a woman don’t support your home/partner…
I’m saying it should be optional not mandatory.. & most reasonable women will always support their partner… I’ve heard women from other culture love African men because they provide and don’t expect them to split bills… that doesn’t mean they don’t support the men.”
