Life coach and social media commentator, Solomon Buchi, has sparked a debate with his recent statement asserting that couples can never fully know each other before marriage.
In a social media post, he argued that no matter how long a couple dates, they will encounter unforeseen aspects of their partner’s character once they enter the realm of matrimony.
He emphasized that even after years of dating, individuals will discover new sides to their partner that may come as a shock.
He wrote about the importance of investing time in getting to know one another before marriage but stressed that marriage requires faith and acceptance of uncertainty.
His post reads:
“You can never know your partner too well before marriage. No matter how long you date, marriage will shock you.
You’ll see sides to them that you never saw in your 10 years of dating. I understand trying to spend long years to know someone before marriage, but getting married requires a level of FAITH.
It requires a little bit of uncertainty; after all, is life itself not uncertain? Even in marriage, your partner evolves per stage. Who they were before childbirth is different from who they’ll be after childbirth.
Stop dating for too long because you want to know the person well; marriage will teach you how much you don’t know them, and why you should patiently study them.
Please, just marry and face the dynamic reality of marriage. It’s a consistent learning curve“
His statement has gained attention and generated discussions among relationship experts and netizens on various social media platforms