How many of you would not mind your mother Inlaw who just retired and is not sick or needing medical attention come and live with you and hubby permanently?!

My friend’s mother Inlaw is planning to do this. My friend is not comfortable with it at all but has resigned her mind to it.

The mother Inlaw often visits them and spends weeks and months with them even though she does not get along with the wife. The wife told me the mama never wanted her first son to marry and would have preferred he continues to bear children outside wedlock. He had a child before marriage. They have children of theirs now.

Sincerely, I can’t understand the rationale behind a mother moving into her son’s house without invitation or permission. Is it fair?

Note -she has a married daughter o. Is it not better for her to live with her daughter if her and her daughter in-law don’t get along? This lady now has strong cause to believe the mama is out to break her home. Would she now be receptive to her coming to live with them permanently?

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  2. common tunde!, u have no right to abuse her mum not talk of calling her witch, it’s a matter which people share different view n points..mind you, not all mother go along with their daughter inlaw,some mother inlaw are d cause of broken marriage today.

  8. Annabel Blessed Imoh I ain’t no motherfucker who go around social Media wasting his hard earned data to abuse or insult people.
    But Ibiye Daju should have bite what she can chew, she got what she bargained for when she called my opinion rubbish.
    Perhaps, she maybe talking from experience, maybe her mother is victimizing her daughter in laws who knows?

  14. move in permanently? lol she nor get house?? hahahahaha young lady just in case ur husband is cool wit dis ridiculous idea, E don red o Dis Means War! u better go get ur prayer gear on!

  18. As for me, if she is a good woman then you just have to accept her in your home but if she is bad that never sees any thing you do good, just avoid her by going to visit her and not her coming to your home because both of you will have issues that might make her to go wit anger and then it will become a family problem, there are people that you can never please, so my dear use morning to look for a black goat because at night, it might be difficult to find,

  19. Madam am praying for my own to come and visit and also help to take care of his grand children,… Am tired to be alone especially when nobody is at home to take care of my kids,..my maid is punishing my kids,….what advice do you need when your mother in-law want to visit you,….
    Even if she is troublesome try and play some sensitive part that she will came down

  25. Wat feeling are you talking about @vivian she hv nothing to discuss with her husband if she don’t want it like that, it means she had a hidden agenda, offcurse just put yourself in the shoe of that woman, she might have no one else except only that one son, nd she may have grow old by age nd finally his son wants to move her in so that she will be properly taken care of, nd his wife will begin to feel somehow unhappy, my dear i tell you such a woman can kill her husband even before his time.

    • U can’t do that directly there is way of showing it to her n besides if she wants to take the role of your woman in the house what will u do she want to cook for u often she wants to dress u up when u get to work choose the meal for the day yes she can do that but when is often n always dictating what to do in the house no mother inlaw dearest no i wont accept iy but will never confront her never i think i will take a walk to my family as well my dear tell me how will ur wife n mother of your kids feel if it comes to that

  28. I prepare my mother more than any woman as I can divorce my wife and marry another but I cannot change my mother. So try and show love, caring and compassion to her she will be by your side at any moment otherwise if you hate her she will call for your divorce and that will be the end for the love he has on you. God forbid!

  33. or go read ur Bible and find out wat God who created marriage said,!!! A man & a woman will come together, & become 1!!!!!!.. & not a man, a woman & family members will come together, & become 1!!!!!

  38. read ur Bible and find out wat God who created marriage said,!!! A man & a woman will come together, & become 1!!!!!!.. & not a man, a woman & family members will come together, & become 1!!!!!…. Major issues Nigeria homes have, dey put dey mother b4 Der wives, forgetting dat ur mother is somebody’s wife “ur father” live ur parents home!!!!!! & go make urs!!!!!!!

  39. May god never allow me to become a foolish mother & mother-in-law…..
    ***How can a woman leave her home & go to another persons home uninvited,spend 1year together with a couple in 1roomself contain …(if am d husband of such woman,I’ll bring her remaining properties,since na her pikin house dey shark her pass)…even if it’s a mansion …not in my(Mercy Omoye Maxwell) home I need privacy!!!!!!! We want to eat rice bcs of u we now have to eat fufu…
    ***be smart !!! Let ur children miss u & invite u ,& even wen u come,play with dem not cause trouble & insist on leaving on time …give urself respect…it hard for some people,but it’s d truth!!!!
    ***Dats d issue with most homes Today dey put Der mother,etc above der husband/wife ..God said a man & a woman shall leave der parents house !!!!!!!! & be 1 !!!!!!!(dat means every other tin is secondary)….
    ****Carry ur bags & carry ur mind too out of dat house!!!!!!!dats ur mother home…U go make ur own!!!!!
    ***a person dat can not say no!!!!! To wrong deeds regardless who d order is from & who he/she maybe disobeying!!!..he / she is immature !!! For marriage…bcs d devil is going to use people to destroy ur home ….ur mum say marry New wife..U marry ,before u come from work she & ur sister beat her..U come & tell her(ur wife) nonsense!!!!!!,u can’t defend her,u ‘re more foolish dan d devil!!!!

  43. That is your only home. It is a place that has to bring you peace of mind and rest. So if anyone, including your mother in law is going to compromise that, do not accept it. Why should she move in with you to start with? What happened to her own house? Is it for a visit or permanently? If it is for a visit, then try and tolerate and show her love, for the sake of peace and for your husband. If it’s permanently categorical NO.

  44. To me o,she jst av to learn aw to go along wit her bcuz she is her mother -in-law.Av we askd ourselves this,wat if she was her mum wont she do evrytin possible to cope wit her?wld she be sad over her coming to stay?

  45. What is wrong.. you should be happy. bcos. what men of today use to do .u will be exceptional bcos his mother is thr. so he will be reasonable al the time. The solution is love her like ur mother.

  48. Madam assume her to be your mother,treat and attend to her as your mother and have it in mind that you will be a mother in-law someday,having all this in mind there will be peace and love in your home and you will thank God she joined you

  53. I have being living wit my mother inlaw 4 some yrs now and she is the best mum ever! So i see nothing wrong wit her coming to stay cause if it is ur own mum u wont get throw her out, just make a room avaliable 4 her, take her as ur own mum cause tomorrow u will be a mother inlaw, what goes around comes around!

  54. You say ur name is glory?%-) I knw ur type,u’re the type that will go the extrd mile of licking both ur husband’s and mother in law’s butts and will even ask if dy’s more 2 lick. 4get abt the trash you’re sayn here… You’re a woman,you will grow old someday 2 become someone’s mother in law ie if u like

  55. Winnie cut, y will her mother in-laws leave with her in the first place, assuming it a visit, it would have been better. As much as I love my mum, she can’t stay with me unless it’s a visit

    • Oyewole Anike she controlled her husband and the daughter in law did not control her father in law, so if her daughter in law wants to feel to be in control of feminine decisions concerning her husband, the mother in law should let them be. Even the Bible asked the man to leave his father and mother, and cling to his wife. Someone does not need to live with you to honour one as a child. When they are ill, you bring them for medical treatment. They can visit you, and you ensure to visit them and listen to them. A wise mother will prefer to respect herself and remain in her husband’s house, where she belongs.

  61. Everything is wrong about that idea even with her own mother too, ppl should understand that coz I have had such experience so let dat woman stay on her own unless she’s not feeling well

  65. Hmmm is a pity that some of us fail to realize that some men prefer their mum to live in their own house than leaving her all by herself. What if The man is her only son? With all your reply on my comment shows that none of you guys will allow your mum to live in your house well is a pity. Remember our mothers took good care of us while we were young now that it is your turn to retaliate why complain?? Please guys let’s learn to show our parents some love especially when they are old nothing can replace the love of a mother not even your wife take my advice ??

  66. Welcome her and treat her just like your mother, change ur attitude towards her,know her likes and dislikes may be through ur Husband. Cause girly I tell u if u are not in good terms with ur mother inlaw….. Your days in marriage may be limited. Another woman might just take over ur kitchen, living room and other room oo

  70. She said she wants to move in permanently,like seriously permanently.my own mom will not leave wif me permanently with the exception if she’s sick and aged.she mared nw y would she left her husbands house and decide to leave wit d son that’s complete nonsense her plan is to monitor the moves of the wife

  71. The truth is that according to the Bible a man shall leave his father and mother and cling unto his wife. Is not bad to have your mother in-law around or any of your in-laws but the truth is that they will pork nose on everything you do before you know problem will begin to set in. They can pay you a visit no problem but if a hand shake exceed the palm then I have nothing to say. Same goes to my own mother and siblings.

  73. There is nothing like marrying his mum in this matter I hv been married for more than 14 yrs so as a wife u hv to find a balance his mother cannot live with u forever use maturity etc remember one day u will grow old to become a mother in law too

  74. What is wrong with that, you should see your mumsy inlaw like your mum. I don’t know why this generation of girls are so mean to their inlaw forgetting that she would become mother inlaw someday. Ekenekwee mu unu

  77. For real I like staying with my mother in-law, I so much love her some year we stay althrough ,my dear just love her ,take her like ur own mother and everything will be easy for u

  81. So what if she’s not feeling well?? as for me nothing is wrong with that idea, this our civilisation is not going to work here, this place is not like western world where they have old people’s home, we should understand that, a mother is a mother, a wife is a wife, nothing in common.

  91. “Onye fee Eze, Eze elo ya”, allow d poor woman to enjoy d fruit of her labour.soon u become mother in law,will u like to be chase out frm ur son?,jst cool down hw many yrs hv d woman to stay?

  94. Not everybody is overcome by love (true and innocent love) If it is so, the love I showed to someone close to me (by blood) yet she wants me dead. If someone hates you, if you want show them love and be foolish thinking that they will not hurt you if opportunity arises simply because you show them love. I laugh out loud… Why do they ask the parents and families of the couple to give them space. So that they can build their own home with a free environment void of interferences.

  95. Sandra Ezechukwu we are both sayin d same tin.I won’t allow my moda to go and stay in my elder brother’s house instead she shld go to my elder sister’s place cos mother in-laws can tolerate their daughter bt not their daughter inlaw

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