Ace comedian Teju Oyelakin (aka Teju Babyface), is proud to tell anyone who cares to listen that he married the love of his life, Tobi.
In this interview with Vanguard, the lovely couple who are four years strong in marriage, open up on their love and challenges as a celebrity couple.
Marrying a friend
On the issue of marrying my friend, the truth is that we became friends after getting married. I mean really good friends. Before we married, we were friends who were attracted to each other because of the qualities we saw in each other. But it was after we got married that we really started to bond at the deepest level of marital friendship. You know what I think? A combination of fidelity and weathering storms together brings about those results and that kind of friendship.
Regrets
Not a single one. In fact, I wish I had gotten married to her earlier. Perhaps two years earlier. I often tell her that if I had married someone else (whilst the opportunity was there to marry her) and I saw her walk into a room, I would have had the deepest type of regret.
After four years in marriage
I believe you can tell from my answers thus far that the experience has been instructive. I won’t say that every single day has been a picnic or cake walk. Heck, the sun doesn’t shine everyday in life. That’s why they give you an A grade if you score 75% in school. No one expects you to score 100%. In fact, no one can score that consistently. You be God? So, we are at that 75% A grade level.
Before tying nuptial knot
Well, quite a number of things but one of the most instructive ones was that she was there when my father died. That was a big one. I can’t even begin to put into words what that did to cement our relationship. She might have missed it too because she had been out of the country and decided to come in a day earlier. If she came in at the time she had originally intended (a day later), it would have been after my father died and somehow I think that might have taken away from the depth of bonding that painful period afforded us.
Being popular and handsome
My experience can be culled from a saying of the Yoruba people which my father used in counselling me several times before he died: “Ni’gba ara l’a bu’ra. Enikan ki i bu Sango l’erun” (Sango only answers by thunder in the rainy season. Therefore, no matter how devout, no disciple invokes the god of thunder in summer and gets an answer. There is a right time to do everything). Let us just say I had my day during my dating years and when that lifestyle was no longer tenable, I was blessed to not only know it but also to find a wife, a good thing and my help mate.
First impression about wife
In fact, when I was less than charitable, I would think she was arrogant. Why? This is because she literally told me to buzz off the first few times I approached her. I was like ‘ehn? me?’. Plus she always had a perpetual scowl. I mean, it made her more attractive but it was a scowl nonetheless. It all disappeared the first time I saw her smile.
Sex before marriage
Lord knows I didn’t always live and behave like that, but, somehow, I was fortunate to discover not only the truth but also the strength in keeping the marriage bed undefiled before I got married to my wife. My father was also very insistent that I should not sleep with the woman I would marry. He would say ‘look, one can even make a mistake and slip up but don’t make it a lifestyle!’ Plus my wife was having none of it! For where?
Each other’s judgement
But of course. Who else’s counsel should one trust? I mean, it doesn’t mean that I always take her counsel (and she mine) but the veracity of it is never in doubt.
What he doesn’t like about wife
There are even things I don’t like about myself! Who is perfect? I wouldn’t say there are things I don’t like. Let us just say there are things I would change about her if I had the power. Having said that, there are things I would change about myself too and I am sure she shares the same sentiment. Having your spouse exactly the way you want would make for a boring co-existence I think.
Wife Speaks: We really bonded on the set of his Teju Babyface TV show
Finding love
Of course it was. I knew he was a popular person but I didn’t let that get into me. I decided to take him for who he was/is and of course there was love.
Sharing him with another woman
Not at all! I didn’t even see him that way. So, it was a no brainier really. A non-issue if you like.
Meeting him when he was nobody
Nobody? He was already The Teju Babyface when I met him. In fact, we really bonded on the set of his Teju Babyface show during the first season recording in 2010. I had come to fill in as a make-up artiste for their regular person and that was when we really spoke for the first time.
Before meeting him
I was an industrious young woman (if I may say so myself), so it was always from one audition to the other. I dated a bit but nothing really deep or emotional.
Making a choice between numerous suitors
Again, I guess they were there, including my husband. He likes to share a story of how I never gave him the time of day when he met me the first time. Lol. True somewhat. He met me while I was working at an event and, as I have said, I had industry firmly in my sight in those days. So I didn’t really see the suitors I guess.
Die to marry him again?
No way. We both believe in life in Jesus Christ. We will live a full life here and hook up again in heaven when we both go in many decades time. No death anywhere around us.
Co-Incidence Queeneth Ihesiaba
Niceone
So..what now happens..9ja celeb ehn
na who we go ask?
Na u start am ???
That doesnt mean you married her as a virgin or she was decent when you met her bros
it might even be dat she felt ur casava wasnt big enough so yhu had to visit ota farm to request something big…
Lol i dy feel ur vibes this eveninq bro welcome back
Bobby, Bobby, Bobby, how many time did I call u, pls take it easy
Lol see my fans full everywhere call it home advantage
I don miss una well well
I kW say I go see Ehiz Drizzy here but bobby ota farm dey produce man cassava,?
Loveth casava na casava oh i no know why u wan dey segrigate am now
Lol..wat is cassava?
@Etiti casava is Tekno has got in big size
lolzzzx….funny dude
Boby boby boby Desmond Bobby hmmm lwkmd
I greet u boss
Plsss I no fit laugh again
Bobby,so u.think.say she no fit b virgin abi.. God go.judge yhu
Lol na yhu think dat one o
Bobby Desmond u hit the nail kpakam for head noting do u.
@Cynthia thank u ma
U can see likeminds here… it’s funny but a lost path… the sooner y realize there are many virgins in Nigeria than little corrupt mind tells u d better for u… most of u judge every girl by d way dey dress and act.. trust me some are real pure virgins… as long as d meaning of being a virgin is not having intercourse then I’ve seen a few and I know there are lots more out there..
@Kachi i dnt even need to look far to see virgins….i am one
Lolzzzz. Yeye @ bobby Desmond
Lol… #Kachi yr head dey dr… So u dnt need to look far Cus M one….
That doesn’t make her a virgin…am I right??? She must have given it to her previous boyfriend. .maybe as birthday gift or exam mark
So,diz one na topic?abegi.
Are u d only person? Diz celeb dem self
Haaaa nija pple una bad mouth plenty
so wetin make we do,,how does that affect this over recession?
My sister ooo, help me to ask that, I tire for Teju
see me see wahala oo chika,,,
them don chop belle ful come de disturb person for media.
blessed,,no mind them jare wetin concern us
@ lest to encourage does who still have value for Derself, dat Der re doing d right tin
madam mercy,,,abeg go encourage them,,,e no concern us at all oo
Promise Stephen Jw lol…. U commented on d post!!!!!… If e no concern u, Y comment.. Lol
Am so sure you both had sex outside ur relationship bfor gettin married, or r u tryin to say u both were virgin
Abeg ask them
Look bush…. Next page
WAT U WILL EAT 4 D REST OF UR LIFE THERE IS NO NEED FOR U STEALING 4RM IT.
Who una epp??
I was a virgin when I gave birth to my first child!!
Who cares to know? Pls find solutions to buhari’s recession
una don baff,
I don’t know what wrong with our so call celebrity, if you don’t have anything to write close your data
Teju, that one na for ur pocket. Next patient pls
go and collect yam and fowl from the igwe
That’s ur fuckin business
So?
Are u both saints, abeg make I hear word! Next post pls! Wait, let’s I forget, how much is a bag of rice now becos this one no be news abeg
Because u do not have a house then it was T A house u stay
All the best. Thank God for waiting. Happy married life.
Good.
OK,we Don hear now ,so share ur first experience too cause we need season two
So Wetin come concern us?….
That na your own. I must know the sex ability skills of my future wife to be. Before I can do the other thing.
Oga ur own good ooh
Abi you nor go try your man?
Thumbs up man
Nice one
This is a man. Love you teju proud there are still men like you that believe you don’t always have to taste the merchandise before buying
c them.. they want claim for here
is it not still ladies like you that’ll call such guy dull or impotent?
Those ladies that say that stuff are not “ladies like me” because it’s not something I’ll say point of correction. So oga learn not to generalize people want different things in life.I definitely know what I want ?
so are you a virgin or you a born again?
Obasa it’s clearly none of ur business u know that right
SPOT ON
Ølatunji Obasa even if she says yes, u will still mock her, so its none of your business.
Thank you ladies.I believe enough has been said ?
Were u there to know whether he did not
He doesn’t have sex with his wife b4 he married her but have sex with other women b4 he married his wife, and the wife probably have sex with someone else b4 she married him. So what different does it make? Still a fornicator whether with his wife or with somebody else. If he said now that he was a virgin b4 he got married, the statement would have make sense.
Queen Ayanfe-Oladeji,it makes alot of difference,even if they are both not virgins and they later realize dat pre-marital sex is wrong and they stop b4 they met each other,the most important tin is dat they stop fornication…my bible condemn fornication.it baffles me when pple see pre-marital sex as normal.even d so call christains
My dear you’ve said it all.All these people wey dey comment here I just dey look them ?
Flora Adogun. I condemn pre marital sex as much as God condemned it. My point is that someone that doesn’t have sex with his wife b4 marriage but having it outside is not different at all, but if they stop and repent from such then there’s a big different.
Unfortunately I don’t know how to confirm whether it’s true
God bless u jawwe
What do you want us to do now
Oya Bring Ur #D Make We Check And Confirm?..
Good 4 u…y now publicizin it
You no try sef, what of me wey don marry for 8years and i never touch my wife?
You are on ur own bro….in this regard.
Hahahaha, Shehu how u check dat one?
Lolz funny man.
Why nah? Wetin appen?
Oga ur thing no dey work
Lolz. Mary susan, i be virgin i no wan spoil now
Nora” nothing happen oo
U r a real man
So what!
story story
Having sex before marriage is not d issue, marrying a virgin is d real thing, so keep quiet.
Cool story! Thank you for the gist, am wondering what the moral lesson is
Who cares? But I hope you are having it now.
Ow dis take affect d price of Bag of Rice…..Hiss
I dn sufa
Who cares
That means you’re a fool,,,,you allowed her to fuck the other of her boyfriend before she will married you ,,,the main test has finished
oga park well dirty things full yur head
Madam the d same dirty thinz still full your pussy,,, #Cencia imbeciles
Even if he allowed it’s his business not urs
Abeg if person talk truth about you girlz el go just the vex una,make una the fuck I will not talk abeg,
bros.dey reason well now.
Okay
stupid thing like you na your girl frnd pussy rotten which you dey eat morron like you fuck you bastard dirty pig fool.
U are lucky u didnt get wot I got wen I did wot u did….hahahahh…..anyway sha..4uk nor dey sour so them must collect..person must pay for the sins of plenty
Hmmm
Abi ooo
So Wetin u wan mk we do now
OK…..next storry!!!
That one na ur business who una help
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So?
Oh.
Well done
Wetin con happen??
Abeg who u de tell any body ask u rubbish post
Hws dat our bizness?
now I’m confused it this was meant to be news
Most of u saying nonsense about dis post, is bcs u have no value / respect for urself, u can please a man by giving him sex, but u can’t make him love u, so even if ur not a virgin, & u acknowledge ur mistakes.. Zip up!!!!!!!.. All d people dat has been tasting, did dey marry u!!!!!! Don’t be fooled
I respect you jare?
U na correct bae..
True take jare
On point
naso dont mind them
Nice one Teju
*Wat gives u d guarantee dat because he /she is good in bed now…Will be d same later after marriage!!!!!!!
Wrong priority for marriage choice!!!!…
Some people are best before marriage…
So open ur spiritual eyes & check very wel for d expiring date ,for d sake of ur health☑
*dnt think u can keep a girl or a guy with money
…even if u do,it’s just for a while….. Because Der is always some1 richer Dan u…Wen dey find dat person!!! U will be sorry for urself
*dnt think u can keep a girl or a guy with sex!!!
.. …because Der is some1 always better,crazier than u & wen dey find dat person!! U will be so sorry for urself
****true love is something everybody can’t give u…it’s had 2 find…true love reconstruct a person…it changes everything….
Who den was he having sex with ? Dnt quote me wrong biko,just asking
All join
Sex carries more power, meaning Dan dat 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 hours self satisfaction!!!!!!be wise!!!
Is she a vegin wen u met her
Great guy
U really did well my dear that’s how it supposed to be , may God bless ur home
should we give you a medal 4 that?
Who cares
you be right but to me I think is some thing you should kip to your self
Who is asking? Nonsense
Is a personal decision so,?????
Who know maybe he’s lie
Sometimes if u love ur wife u would cover her wit everything even if she is not a virgin b4 u met met her, u would say she was, u do it cos of love. It’s only God know
I will take your claim serious only if U can swear that U were a virgin till U got married to her. If not U re not serious. U can’t be eating chicken meat and claim not to be eaten eggs.
But u have sex with other pples girl ……. dats bad
Non of my Business Bro…
Someone else did before and after marriage then. Oops!
He didn’t have sex with her before marriage. And boys here are asking was she a virgin? Is that how you have degraded your mindsets? So if a girl has been disvirgined, she can no longer meet a gentle man, who might decide otherwise? Or is being disvirgined a criteria for boys not to respect a woman?
I wonder o
u are the people we want in this country but are u sure for what u are saying young man
How that one take bring food for breakfast
guess you’re looking for fame or people’s recognition. Now that you decided to bring your family issue out in public, we don’t wanna hear stories that touch. Social media comments can actually do and undo, beware!!
Cover ur ? I know why u don’t wanna hear such stories
Same to you Kachi Emmanuel Chibuogwu
Hmnmm why are you taking it personal is he ur ex?
Who cares??,shoro niyen
Akuko ifo! If u tell me na who I go ask.. Can u buy groundnut witout testn one nut.. Many ppl do sometn worst dan sex, expecialy our claimd virgin gals. U guys know naa.. Hmmmm…
Beautiful but when u eventually did was she a virgin pls tell us
Good morning every one
Lol….
lots of ladies re busy saying he’s a real man….
Life it’s all bout how lucky u were,, u might meet sm one today n had sex d same day n he will end up in marriage,,,SM people will see it dat d lady is cheap but even if u dated for 2 years n later allowed him,, he might still hv sex n leave u not minding time,, dat u re virgin does not made u d best woman…though dats d way GOD wants it to b but u might b a virgin n ends up marrying a bad man or woman n those girls u see as prostitutes will get their heart desires… As humans we believe in tasting d merchandise before be u a boy or girl cos marriage u see is a different ball game n once u re in,, u re in. Dat teju did not hv sex with her before marriage does not MK him d best n a virgin,, he has fucked other girls in d past n d wife herself ain’t a virgin or d best woman either…
Who asked you
U can see likeminds here… it’s funny but a lost path… the sooner you realize there are many virgins in Nigeria than little corrupt mind tells u d better for u… most of u judge every girl by d way dey dress and act.. trust me some are real pure virgins… as long as d meaning of being a virgin is not having intercourse then I’ve seen a few and I know there are lots more out there..
Nice to hear u are a real man that can endure God bless ur home
Good idea
Sey make we come dey cry,na ur wife if u like bang her or not as long as u don pay bride price complete ur free to do anyting on d oda room
Wow…das wat real men do
Mheeeew! Soro nyen
Your lucky, the last time I bought no testing electronic in Lagos, I regretted it.
But another man sleep with her b4 u married her
If I hear,who I go ask?so many of these celebrities never will admit they did.That doesn’t mean ur marriage is d best anyways. Just pray God keeps you both together.
Ok
And so what??? Some did
So? We should start menstruating
Wats my biz na
Bt u didn’t meet her a virgin, sm bad guyz don destroy b4 u…
But did you marry her as a virgin?
how e take affect us???
So what. But you slept with other girls ie other people’s wives . What’s d big deal
Who u help
And you left those you had sex with and go marry the one you did not have sex with okwia?