2. He’s mistreating you.
Now I’m not just referring to the obvious universal no-nos like abuse or cheating. Beyond that, each person has a different standard on how they want to be treated. Some girls insist that a guy opens the door, yet other girls find it offensive. The point is that if you are unhappy with how you’re being treated, don’t justify the behavior. If he in any way makes you feel insecure or like you need to change things about yourself, he needs to go. That is a slippery slope and no one who cares for you would ever do that. If he doesn’t make you a priority over his friends, don’t make excuses as to why he’s doing that. If he isn’t connecting with you emotionally, don’t blame it on his childhood and then try to fix him. You cannot change someone’s poor behavior toward you – but you can control whether or not they have that opportunity.
3. He’s ignoring you.
If you so much as THINK about rationalizing why he’s not answering your calls, texts, emails or messages in a bottle, I will hurt you. And it won’t be pretty. His phone didn’t fall off the Golden Gate bridge. He didn’t die in a tragic fire. Here are the only explanations: he’s irresponsible, he’s with another girl, or he doesn’t want to talk to you at the moment – or ever. And it shouldn’t matter to you what the explanation is because responding to a person is the very minimum that should be expected in a relationship – dating or otherwise. Furthermore, what good will it do you to get to the bottom of it? The point is, he’s made his decision and you’re better than that!
If there’s one thing that’s worse than discovering your mom was right, it’s discovering that you were right. Don’t ignore your gut.
Yelling at you because I care,
– College Crush
