A Nigerian man has bemoaned his failure to buy a Sallah ram this year and his wife’s unwillingness to cook for their children or communicate with him.
The man, whose identity remains undisclosed, had an unbroken tradition of buying a ram for each Eid celebration over the past 12 years.
However, in 2023 he was unable to continue this custom due to financial issues, including rising debt and the children’s tuition.
A public official named Abdullahi Misilli posted the story on Twitter, attributing it to the journalist Lawan Bukar Maigana.
The man voiced unhappiness in his wife’s lack of sympathy and assistance during this trying time while remaining anonymous.
He stated that his wife’s actions revealed her lack of affection for him even though he had 100,000 Nigerian Naira in his possession and that she had never supported him in times of difficulty.
Abdullahi wrote;
“Yesterday, a married man, after listening to BBC Hausa news, told me that his wife has stopped talking to him and refused to cook for his children since the first day of Sallah because he didn’t buy a ram for her.
Shortly, two of his children came and asked for money for breakfast. He got upset but I calmly calmed him down. He then gave them some money and they left.
He explained to me that he’s been married for nearly 12 years and never passed Eid without sacrificing but he contemplated this year because he has a huge debt to pay coupled with the school fees of his children. Yet, all his wife wants was just a ram and she didn’t care what happens thereafter.
“I have 100k in my pocket. I would go buy a small ram for her but Allah knows that my wife doesn’t love me because she never supports nor helps me in difficult times.”
The married man concluded that he would have divorced her long ago if not because of his children.
I was just speechless!
Some men are suffering in silence.”
Yesterday, a married man, after listening to BBC Hausa news, told me that his wife has stopped talking to him and refused to cook for his children since the first day of Sallah because he didn’t buy a ram for her.
Shortly, two of his children came and asked for money for…
— Abdullahi Misilli (@Abdallahmisilli) June 30, 2023