Nigerian writer, Tosin Silverdam has just shared an emotional story about himself on Instagram about a man who sexually molested him as a kid and how the man and his wife have been calling him recently asking to meet with him.
Read his story below;
Over a week ago I got a message on instagram, the content of the message was “hello”, I checked the sender, I found out it was the man that sexually molested me as a kid. I was petrified, I didn’t reply him, then he messaged me again.
I was confused if I should reply him or not, I kept going back to check his message every hour. So I decided to reply him, he replied back immediately. I had to be mature about it, even though I’ve forgiven him. The scary part was when he said he needed to see me, claiming it was urgent.
I told him I’ve relocated to the North, then he said he doesn’t mind coming over to the North all the way from Lagos. I declined, he kept on pressurizing me, I told him I’ve forgiven him but seeing him won’t be necessary.
He became persistent, I had to stop replying him. I’ve forgiven him and I’ve healed but seeing him face to face will definitely bring back horrible memories, it will be awkward and I don’t want that. He started calling my phone, I wonder how he got my number (my phone number was on my Instagram page), i got depressed, I had to block his number cos I wasn’t interested in seeing him.
After several days, I received a call from a lady, she claimed to be his wife. Yes, he’s married. The wife was pleading on phone to see me, that they need to see me and it’s urgent. I asked her why, she said it’s for good and no cause for alarm. I don’t know how I feel about this, I don’t think I’m ready for such.
She’s been calling me, I had to block her number as well. I’m not ready for it and then again my conscience is pricking me. I’m extremely confused on what to do
If truly you have forgiven them there is no cause of alarm for you not seeing them you just still have too forgive and forget everything they do back then ones they have realized there mistakes, live life we are from the dust and we are still going to be dust vanity upon vanity
I’ll advice that you agree to the meeting. It may be hard on you, but if truly you forgive him, let him know by meeting him. However,dont meet him alone, insist he comes with the wife, on your path go to the meeting venue with Someone you trust to share your experience with. Your pastor may be your best choice.Goodluck my brother.