I am decent and hardworking. I don’t wear provocative outfits although i stay classy.

This my father’s age-mate has been on my neck for some time now just to go down with me. I keep telling him NO and all but he won’t bulge a bit. He’s got a wife and kids.

I don’t wanna ruin his home neither do I want to put my own future in jeopardy by sleeping with him.

However, jobs are very scarce in this country and I don’t wanna lose this 6-figure paying job cos he keeps threatening to lay me off if I don’t do his bidding..

What do I do?? please advice!!

I am so confused right now… I need people’s opinion.

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  11. Lol sorry I’m not trying to promote bad thing here,but what of your jobless boyfriend wey u dey give am for free???And if your married,quit the job and face your marriage life as long as your husband earn befitting salary.Case close!

  14. A good name is better than riches,yes times are hard but you can survive it.., or if you. are smart enough. you can blackmail him by recording the convo and threatening to tell his wife a man of that age will not want to loose his family” but quit to be on the saver side., those who seek the face of God can never be out of option

  15. Don’t start what u can not finish, if u did not use sex to get d job don’t use sex to keep it caus sex may take u up but won’t keep u if he insist give d job up. God will make a better way for u in Jesus name

  18. U re not a virgin nd most have slept with different man in the name of boyfriend nd so, if u don’t wan to carry last like as u said country is hard, give him front nd back cos u re not new in the game of sex

  26. I don’t want to comment but at least I’m moved let me say something,what of if he is trying you and at the end of the day if you fail then you miss a good plan for your life,abeg think twice,if you love someone it’s a different case and not the one with conditions,save your soul at the end if you stand the man may become your best friend I mean fatherly friend.

  31. You dey crace you hear, hs is my Father’s age mate, he is making sex advances on me, i’m saying no to him and i don’t want to loose job. he is got kids and wife otherwise you would have been having it with him since? God is all you need to meet all your need met Bishop David O. Oyedepoi told me that. Just embrace Jesus.

  35. your boss is not greater than your lord who commands thou shall not commit adultry,the wealth of heauen and earth are his to give his loyal seruants, leaue the job and seek another one,the lord will reward you good,who knows,may be your boss might end up working for you , with god euerything is possible

  36. Aunty before he fire you
    fire yourself…your best is yet to come,that is just a temptation from the devil
    remember for every temptation you overcome there is a promotion…so overcome that by sayin NO and walkaway

  38. your boss is not greater than your lord who commands thou shall not commit adultry,the wealth of heauen and earth are his to give his loyal seruants, leaue the job and seek another one,the lord will reward you good,who knows,may be your boss might end up working for you , with god euerything is possible

  40. Simple use his blaclmail against him….next time he comes up to u,record or video him,show it to him…tell him if he doesnt promote u that his wife,his children,his other workers,his pastor,his company’s shareholders,his business rival and his enemies will see the video….blackmail + blackmail=fair game….if he threatens u,tell him u av 3 friends dat already have the video n if anything should go wrong with you or any members of ur family….he will be in a hot soup ….. Wen u r done,look him in the eyes and say “its ur call,boss”….n leave with that classiness u av….

  41. Pls don’t give him d chance 2 spoil ur life by having sex with U, even if u lose ur job by protecting urself have faith u will see more better job than this… Pls sis don’t give him dat chance

  46. Some comment can make someone laugh, if they were to be in her shoes, they will do worst oo..#ask yourself that question, ladies.. And for you guys, will your wife tell u such a thing even if she does it?? #be sincere# … Just keep praying, it will not be our portion… #justmyopinion #…. But………… #where is the job out there?????????????

  54. It sounds like the only reason you are refusing him is:
    1. He got a wife
    2. He got kids
    3. His your father’s age mate ( how old is your father?)
    These reasons are not strong enough cos you may have done it with an old professor way back in school, an old retired papa or old businessman when you were jobless. You are not refusing him on moral grounds base on the fear of God. Repent, the kingdom of God is near!

  56. IT IS BETTER U LOSE UR JOB THAN TO BE HAVING AFFAIR WITH UR BOSS, IT IS TWO THINGS HERE, U CAN NEVER HAPPY IN THAT JOB, IF U TURN DOWN HIS SEXUALLY DESIRE, SECOND, WHEN U GIVE HIM ONE CHANCE, U WILL TAKE U AS HIS SEX TOYS AND HE WILL ALSO DEMAND SEX FROM U ANY TIME, THE DAY U WILL SAYS NO, HE WILL SACK U THAT DAY, JUST LEAVE THAT JOB TO BE HAPPY IN UR LIFE AND GOD WILL OPENED ANOTHER DOOR FOR U, NEVER GIVE UR BODY TO MAN COS OF WORK, HE WILL USED U AND GO FOR ANOTHER LADY AGAIN, SIMPLY QUIT THE JOB AND BETTER DOOR WILL OPENED FOR U AGAIN, IF U KEEP ON THINKING ABOUT THE JOB, HE WILL END UP SLEEPING WITH U, HE CAN ALSO INFECT U WITH SICKNESS LIKE HIV AIDS AND OTHERS, COS U ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT HE SLEEP WITH HIM, ANY MAN THAT DO THESE SLEEP WITH A LOT OF WOMEN .

  68. Dats a big shit from a bull(bulshit)why harassing de poor lady,if na me sef,i will give u de sex,but u will not step out of de hotel room alive,i mean say,i go stab de idiot,i de vex like dis wen i hear dis kind of tins happening to ladies,ladies!!!! U guys shld be prayerful,cus una come dis life to suffer ni???
    I pray God put hand for una matter oh…

  69. My dear face him and talk sensibly to his face ad den tell him u r resigning unless he stops,if God steps in den d job is truly urs but if not u were neva meant to work there.buh dnt giv in bcos it wil turn agenst u in d nearest future.

  75. Hmmm dis is a very serious matter wit the hungry wey dey dis country.babe use ur head as far u are not a married woman it normal. moreover u have a boyfriend and both of u normally have sex .so?why ur boss come dey hard? Babe park well joor.

  78. As for me o, no one tries such nonsense with me and remain in that office. No one has ever made me miserable and last in Dat office, am not a whitch o but the God Dat I serve and the God Dat gave me the job and the God that says that “an idle man is the devils workshop will never let me out of my job + after not joking with my tithe, if I will not pray God to give him trouble Dat will make him forget I exist in Dat office. Because if I wanted men I will not be working I’d rather be following men up and down but Dat is not my potion in Jesus name. If you give in to his devilish desires you will still get sacked ona day in other for him to have his way with other ladies. I will never quit my job because of one stupid boss harassing me when I’m not being sacked or commit any offence oh, Dat man most leave Dat work place for me in Jesus name.

    • That’s the spirit dear, nobody has the right to make anyone miserable or inferior. Unless the lady is desperate and shows it. Some bosses can be very mean and useless, I’m sorry to say, but it’s in the place of every employer to put such bosses in their place. Like I said, wisdom and integrity is very key. May God help us all.

  79. Hmmm dnt damage ur image bcs of work, bliv in GOD bcs he’s d one dat provide work fr u nt ur so call boss, so d GOD dat provide d work for u wil stil provide anoda one for u, so dnt giv ur body bcs u wn to be retain, hw wil u feel to pls ur self nd anoint d ALMIGHTY GOD dat make a way were dere’s no way.

  81. Kneel down and cry to God if he still sack you know that there is a bigger and better place for you, some times it happens this way for us to grab our ripe blessings don’t ever I mean never allow him sleep with you unless you don’t trust in The almighty God who is the impossibility specialist.

  83. Just table the matter to God in prayer, and he will never fire u, instead he will be d one that will lose at d end.
    I believe that one with God is majority nd with God all things are possible.
    So with God ur case is very simple.

  86. While you resist him,pray hard,be a problem solver,than to be a mere staff.give him reasons why you said no,and if he insist flee because God gave you talent and not a job which could even be a trap

  87. Hmmmmmm….human beings can pretend eh, see different advice from different angles,lol..check those people giving you advice, you’d be so shocked at what u will see… My dear poverty is not a good thing ooo, if u leave that job now, where or when will u see another one, I’m not saying sleep with ur boss,but there are other ways to deal with d issue, every body out here is trying to survive…you don’t have to sleep with him to keep job…think oooo, poverty no b good thing madam

  90. Don’t plz because you won’t be able to escape it letter and people will carry the rumors about…… Leave d job you don’t belong there that’s if you didn’t give before getting it God will fight for you if you remain calm and clean

  93. blackmail is bad dnt blackmail him he might kill u and again he might Just be testing you y not play along and see wats up to and besides ur not avirgin u can giv him sex i see no different dere cause u might hv been givin it out for ntin since so y nt give it out for sometin nw country is very bad you know dat so just play along okay! !

  95. Listen young lady, from ur words u dont wanna do it nd u dont wanna get fired
    .See i undastnd u quite well buh if u wanna live a good, long nd satisfying life, u gat to quite cos there is nothing u say or do that wil calm him, he is like a hungry lion , he wil always want more… Moreover, he is not ur God who provided d job in d first place, so if u are fired, be calm cos d God who provided the previous wil definitely provide d next. #myopinoin

  96. Pray abt it while u try dodging his advances using wisdom, dnt be rude, continue to do ur job well, and if there is any superior person to him, report the case intelligently, but if not, and the situation gets so bad, honorably resign, as long as u did not sleep ur way in getin the job, cos if u go ahead and have sex wit him, u either get pregnant or when he’s done wit u, he stil fires u and my dear that wil be more humiliating. It’s not easy, but it’s ok. Image is everything.

  99. My dear sister don’t do it, if u know trully that u are serving a living God, report the case to him, just know that if u do it he will keep asking and again u loose ur respect and pride Becouse of work, who told u that u will not see better one than that, who told u that u will not be greater than ur boss, secondly if u are not serving another thing then report his case.

  100. Answer a few questions here first…is he the owner of the company? If yes u probably have to decide between quitting and giving in by urself. Secondly, if he’s not the owner of the company then you have to speak to his own superiors…I’m sure there are laws which gives attention to sexual harassment in the office place mainly to protect women from predators like him. But its a moral issue more or less so you have to dig deep and rely on what you learnt whilst growing up cos no one has the right to judge you but yourself. Good luck!!!

  111. Just go down on your knees and pray to God for intervention… that has always been my weapon and when under trial and it always work wonders! So far as you are sincere, God will fight for you. No two ways about it. Useless men! Always looking for someone to destroy.

  113. Get an evidence of his advances ,a mobile phone recording or something,let him know afterwards that if you loose your job for any reason,you will tell the world and his wife will be the first to know ,why you were fired
    Trust me he will step far.he will make the job a living hell for you though

  118. Aunty pls never u try to defy ur body bcos of ur work or d money u will get from there pls, remember ur body is d temple of d Holy Spirit. I pray dat even if u are fired in dat office, d Lord dat created u will surely make a way OK, just have Hope in God .

  128. Ur choice. U can either dance to his tune or tell him where to put his job. Seems like u hve made up ur mind already by saying u don’t want to loose the job. Times are hard. If u are confident enough, u will get another job. Good luck darling. Let ur heart lead u but make the right choice

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