Veteran Nollywood actress, Hilda Dokubo has shared a piece of her mind on the best ways to manage marriages and relationships in general.
Based on the rate at which marriages break nowadays, the actress has noted that the best way to keep a home intact is by forgiveness, loving the home and self-love.
When asked if catching the man cheating was reason enough to walk out of the marriage, the veteran actress turned minister of God said in such a situation, the woman needs to forgive the man the same way God has been forgives daily for sins committed.
“You know I’m a Christian, I’m born again, and I’m a minister so no ground is good enough. The Bible charges a man to love his wife as God loves the church. God has not abandoned us because of our sins, even when He caught us red-handed. He still loves us; He’s still giving us the best of help,” she said.
According to Hilda said the only deal breaker in marriage is when it becomes severely abusive.
Hilda Dokubo has been active in the movie industry since 1992 and has starred in hundreds of movies where she is known to be easily brought to tears in her mostly melancholic roles.
She has been married for 30 years and sometimes share tips on relationships and life in general.
we shld continue to forgive until he brings disease home abi? tank u ma!
Continue until God get tired of forgiving u
Yeah
Even if the disease na HIV?
Monday Onah hope u also forgive her when she do hers
Tell him
@monday onah answer d questions of Cynthia Julius and Ifunanya Trixie
Leave him lemme give him the question in clear details. Monday Onah enh, if ur wife cheats on u every time she gets the chance and u also found out that shes cheating on u with none other than ur blood brother o, u forgives she still goes back steady ,biko brother how will ur forgiveness journey be like? Becos as I dey here I knw say to start with u go don kill ur brother come dey plan the woman own. This forgiveness of a thing isn’t easy.bible said we should forgive but we are not God for it to be as easy for us as it is for him.we didn’t marry to get killed na haba.na till the man give person killer disease we go knw say forgiveness get limit?
You have to 4give him as many times as possible because one day he might change
Odiegwu..tell that to ur umunna @joelayu
A man wey dey cheat has issues with d wife, most women r so brain dead in bed esp african women. For y’all info, a man is programmed by God, a woman shld have her skills to rock her husband beyond his dreams n dat will make him see her as one n only in his mind n dat aswell will keep him glued to her cos he knows dat dia is no one compared to her. And u see dem telling dia fellow married men hw dia wives r very gud in bed. African women wake up n learn we r in d new age not 19th century, i hail calabar babes, they know hw to keep dia husbands to demselves. Lol
@ Cynthia Julius, if she doesn’t fear God then she should go ahead pls after all salvation is individual
LOL
Learn how to lock his zip well don’t allow him to discover another woman can zip more than you. Because it will take a little misunderstanding to loose him.
@monday then u guys that womanises..na una fear God baa
Abeg u guys should stop talking trash n giving excuses for ur lousiness..I hope when u die u will tell God it’s man’s nature to cheat
A cheat is a cheat whether the wife is good in bed or not he will still cheat
Not all man cheat on their wives, both man and woman do cheat on their partners except those that have d fear of God and satisfy with every situation he or she is facing would never cheat on their partners
Thanks
Valentine Bondaval no doubt.. U are a baby. Brainless one at that.
Ask them if they wl forgive their wives when they cheat on them. Stupid menfolk
Ifunanya Trixie at least in bible, there are many people ( men) who married more than 1 wife but they were not punished by stoning them and others.but when a woman cheat , she got the punishment. I hope u got my point
It’s better for a man to give his wife sickness than a woman to ….. Because men are in title to their decisions, men cheat but they don’t want to know my woman cheat. but cheating it’s just not only by sex lien to ur partner is also a cheat. So cheating is a human blood group.
love the fanpage
So what happens when the woman cheats?
The man will forgive as well
Lol.. You know that’s not true
Show them d door!!!
Exactly! And yet you guys expect us to forgive you when you cheat? You wonder why women are biting off their spouse’s manhood… Lol. We bad
Y u woman se men as una be dsame tin?man is head of family reach tomorrow
Okay… That’s why you guys cheat and bring disease ba? Well God no go gree mk I catch my own cos I go do am pass biting off em tin.. Lol
What if ur husband keep repeating it, what do u do then?
Ahn ahn, keep ke? Won’t I catch him? Everyday for the thief one day for the owner na
Why will a sensible and responsible woman want to cheat on her husband i mean after paying yr bride prize u still ave d mind to cheat on him
Davis Am-strong and allowed to cheat…Right???
Ojoajogwu Moses Maji Donmoris. Why will a sensible man cheat too
Julius, will kill am immediately… Lolz
He he
Lolz….hilda has become so spiritual o
Hahahaaaa
Salvation ministries dey try in your life……
U don’t have to be spiritual to give good advice. And church has nothing to do with it . It’s only a quality of morality and decency. Broaden ur horizon and stop being so myopic in ur thinking.
Chinwe Abigail Asu u don’t have work …..only commenting on people’s opinion. Why not give ur own nd let them be
My sister oooo
Anybody who has good sense of humor ll knw dat comment was a joke
All diz over serious pple with basically no idea of life ll b d first to jump n try to correct others…
Dis woman they use olden days style relate with us abi….buh ts tru tho….btw dis guys would be taking advantage
That’s if he is sober
Ur too beautiful
There is some setting things that you must forgive, not your husband cheating on you seriously ,that is a big gross of insult,if your husband respect you he won’t cheat on you,all are the same but different nature and faces
God bless u my sister
Bless you dear
Y not respect God and stop committing sin everyday @ Precillia Nte
So if your husband cheat on you u will live him for another man and what if that one cheat again? U will still live him for another man? U go change husband tire i pity u
nop nop nop…..not all men are same…sincerely
How pure are u Precillia Nte? is dat how u will be exchanging husbands? can u confess to the world dat u haven’t cheated on ur bf/husband? I pity u
If u catch am kill am,u hear
What about if your wife cheat on you can you forgive her guys?? Remember we are all human and nobody is perfect so your wife can also be tempted just the way you guys are being tempted. So can you guys forgive a cheating wife? Don’t do to others what you can’t tolerate from others. It will be much better to stay unmarried than staying married to a cheat as a husband so that she would be a dumping ground for infections and STDs .
99% of men today cheats, 20% of women cheats…
women always wants to see us as same…when will you the ladies start paying for us to marry una…it is not right to cheat but believe me or not…there is a reason married men cheat more than married women, men are not created same with women and the general perception of a cheating husband is not same with a cheating wife…don’t get me wrong..cheating is bad generally. ..but if all the cultures still allow men to marry more than one wife and the women to stick to one husband. ..don’t you think that has given men the license to cheat?…it is bad though…
Read my sentence very well and understand before reply,am not referring it to all,but for the fact that your husband is cheating on you,doesn’t show respect, and the love is not there….even your boyfriend can’t cheat on you if he love,
Moshi Emmaster ,point of correction, my husband cannot cheat on me and I can’t cheat on my husband, pray and marry a God fearing woman……who will love you for who you are and not for material things, and be careful of your comments because am not talking to you,but if you want to take it personal then it not Facebook issues again
See ladies,no one is praying for a cheat as a husband, but if you ain’t ready to forgive your husband not your “BOYFRIEND” you are not ready for marriage…. Only if we ladies knew what some of our mothers had to go through…
Forgiveness come when he repent ,you won’t be happy to forgive when he continue with what he is doing, what do you expect from such woman?? But am very sure that a responsible man cannot cheat on his wife
Being responsible alone won’t give a long lasting solution to cheating spouse. It takes d FEAR OF GOD nt to cheat on ur spouse.
A responsible man is not just to take care of is family but qualified in any different aspects of life
Some Men are just happy fooling themselves around all in the name of cheating thinking they have the licence to cheat so they can go on and on cheating putting their man hood in every hole that accept to open for them. Shame on you. If u think you are the head of the home that you are above your woman, is sleeping with every woman and committing adultery the write way to prove it?? How many men are providing for their homes 100percent needs?? If men is the head of home please bearing that name “head” is not all that matters. Please do what will keep your homes. Women are human being just like you men it is blood that flaws in her veins if you love and respect your woman no reason will make you cheat on her. Please remain single so that you will have all the girls to fornicate with stop incurring pains on your wife because “you are the head”
So what will you do if you don’t forgive ?jump to another man or remain single and be sleeping around?who told you your next husband will not cheat ?
@ Cheechee Nwagwu that is suicide mission!!! Women are suffering just because they want to stay married. What is the need??
My husband cannot cheat on me,likewise I can’t cheat on him,you decided how to lay your bed so you can lay on it,if you want to jump you can go a head or sleeping around with men that is left for you to decided on
Sorry precillia if my words offend you wish you good luck
Experience will tell, is the best teacher.
Faith Ayodele,am not offend, but we are to learn from each other, the things we say is helping someone out there but we may not no
No body has the right to cheat in a relationship be it male or female
I don’t support u Tracy Imohi our brother Muslims do marry more than one wife but their women don’t marry 2 husband but we r all serving same God. Right ?
Laurent Monday my Bible told me one man, one wife. Which one you dey read?
So Mr man,with your own idea is for a man to marry hundred wives thousands children, Christian like to miss interpret word,now that is not the headline, so read the headlines and understand before before I reply you,the headlines is different from what you are saying
Laurent Monday Yes we are serving the same God but in different ways. If one is getting married to a Muslim man the woman will prepare her self and mind that she is not going to be the only wife to the man that one is different from Christian beliefs. Besides, marrying more than one wife is different from having a wife and a concubine(s).
ekis ma..so wat u are trying to say is that we should allow him to bring STD home??
Ekis MA?????? ??
That’s the way
Hhmm…
And a woman cheat dey trow her out of d house. OK na. I hear u. Una Weldon o
No mind dem. Mtcheeew
Let us reverse the case and hear your advice. If your wife cheats on you???
What if he’s the type that will never change?
The bible says in Mathew 19:9..if ur partner is unfaithful to u divorce him or her..y will they ever tink of cheating? U both can discus ur sex life and make amendments.
What scripture and verse of the Bible please?
Matthew 19:9 go and read it
It’s true oo, read it from verse 7
The bible says whosoever shall put away his wife not her husband, except it be for fornication, he went futher and said,and shall mary another, commit adultry: adultry is diff from furnication. It is not possible for a married woman to furnicate, a woman can only furnicate when she is unmarried, sleeping with another man while married is adultery. To tell u that bible do not support divorce.
That’s just the main fact Caroline, you said it all
Guy stop misinterpreting Bible
Easier said
What are you did you have Bible please read it well oo b4 u take ppl to hell@ chidon
True talk
U are reading bible for reading sake! Understanding doesn’t matters to u. Stop quoting rubbish jor. As long as ur husband or wife whom both swear to stay together until death do u apart is still alive, if u life him or her to marry another person. U HV committed sin
It’s true
Boniface if ur wife carry HIV, will still keep her as ur wife?
So all of u are encouraging cheating….abi sorry for u keep it up cheat as u won’t @ Boniface ansa my question.
It said forgive the person but if you can’t forgive then divorce the person.
U b one way traffic. D same Bible talk forgiveness, u quickly choose jam lock. My Bible is open oo
Mr preacher. Read malachi 2:14-16. God hates divorce. No matter how u twist it. The scripture u quoted insinuates that if u put ur wife away for d reason of adultery, u should remain unmarried. If I may ask, what kind of sin will ur partner sin against u, that will deserve divorce? Haven’t we sinned more against God, n yet He still forgives us?
Read my comment…what if he or she collect HIV while cheating wat will u do..? Ansa me u people are claiming righteous
The bible also doesn’t say it’s a sin if u forgive him. I was once asked in a show what I would do if I caught my husband in a bed with my best friend. My response surprised them. “I’ll feel sad but i’ll forgive him and make sure my husband and I visit that my best friend at home with her friendship sack letter the next day so she’ll see we’re not fighting bcos of her. I won’t divorce my husband because some girl chose to be cheap. It’s her loss not mine and I won’t let it be my husband’s.” Divorce is not the best thing to do unless there’s something else.
Bitchs and senseless people are saying rubbish on my post,why will you cheat on both if you still love each both @ moshi Emmaster
Precilia i wonder ooo dis people are just taking nonsense…by de time there partner gives dem HIV dere eyes go open
Chidon Israel if you are in love with your true love when trying to make marriage arrangement you went for test and realized she is HIV positive and you negative, will you live her for another?
No body says u should not divorce her but make sure you remain unmarried as long as she is alive. It also in the bible. Chidon Israel.
Ekikere y not i will leave her
It won’t be a sin if you divorce him/her for the sake of adultery, but it’s a sin when you remarry afterwards. However, if you know that you won’t be able to overcome the urge for sex like Apostle Paul, then you have to try to forgive and let go, though it’s never easy except for His Grace.
Well said Caroline Omowunmi.
I second u bro
U can only remarried if the partner dies…
There is one thing with divorce that people do not understand and I think that is why some jump in way too fast to divorce their spouse without thinking twice.
Divorce should always be the last option when other alternatives have failed.
Most people do not understand or they choose to forget that once divorced, you are to remain single as far as the other person is alive. The only thing permitted to permanently separate a man from his wife is death. Not even the divorce paper!
If u leave your husband bcs he cheated on u, then will u go and marry another person or u will remain for the rest of your life?
Chidon, am sure u are not married, the topic is not for u
Carolina omowumi pls give me dt Bible verse
To an extent so true
And if a woman cheat they trow her out of d house Abi no be today woman they forgive but not anymore .
wife nko ?
When a woman cheats nkor????
Ma’am don’t give men the courage to cheat. They don’t have any excuse(s) for dat
You are a good woman
Hmmmm
A lady must have a special heart for this.
Should men do the same?
Men can’t do the same. Or did u hear her said men shud 4give if he’s wife does that? No 4givenss
I will not be an enabler a cheat is always a cheat like#bangelina
True
What are you saying, don’t you know that cheatting can lead to anything HlV is every were now if you must know
Mama pls go Nd park well,u don old don’t bring old doctrines here
It’s not fair o!
You will also be old one day.
Lol
So u have accepted that u won’t attain old age,abi?
It’s just a piece of advice. U either take it or leave it. Don’t go insulting the woman. That’s childish.
Chinwe Abigail Asu when your husband cheat on u,tell him to keep it up that he should continue cheating#mtcheeeew
My husband will NEVER cheat on me. But i know someone like u with ur attitude and bad mouth u will chase ur husband into the arms of other women for sure. May God help u.
Good woman
But wen we cheat on dem dey can leave us?
God bless u ma! I hear u… But 2 an extent…
So this woman has stop acting?
Impossible
Because I love him I may not be able to forgive him am sorry but if I don’t love him than I can forgive him cheating on me, because who cares so u see cheating not allowed
Dear Pls try to learn how to forgive the Bible says we should forgive
How Holy and faithful are u? do u know how times you’ve sinned known and unknown sin and yet God 4gives u? you’re here making decisions of ur own
If u catch am kill am you hear
fact
4give so dat he wil contInue nd later go bring one STD home abi?nonesense.
Tell them o. Ladies ona don hear. A word is enough the wise. Forgive us continually. It’s not our fault.
Mumu!!!!!!!!!
Abigail or Abiwoman u don’t have to insult me. If u don’t want to forgive him, pack out. Period.
Chinwe Abigail Asu, u dey sound like u dey into dis situation with ur husband or bfrnd. Pump ur break on d insults
Onyekachi Nwosu Last Born
Thank u ma.
God help them both
Hehhhhh This should not deceive any BAE’s in the huze oo…
Some guyz are Born cheat.. TRAINED in Yoruba_Emon Academy
Pls dnt shout at her before she starts cryin from her pic… Dis woman can cry for state
Dats wen he ask for forgiveness n shows remorse
Dt a good advice so dt u we nt loose ur hubby
Very correct mummy! that’s what the Bible said.
Such a good heart
Pray for him to repent
Beautiful
Mummy thanks for defending us..
We love you..
Bae’s abeg make una listen to this correct advice.
Get set to be forgiving us guys.
No be our fault. Hehehehe!
Away..
So you’re saying….
Don’t mind the asshole!!!
Me Asshole?
Hahahahaha!
That’s so insulting to my personality, but I won’t insult you back.
It’s amazing you can’t recognize fun or joke from being serious.
Thanks for the Asshole gift. ?
Chinwe Abigail Asu u don’t have work …..only commenting on people’s opinion nd insulting them. Why not give ur own nd let them be
Who is ready to forgive you. If you guys cheat. We cheat bac
And the cycle continues…
Life goes on..
Well, it shouldn’t be so… Forgiveness lurks somewhere ready to remedy the situation.
Hilda has a point in what she said..
Why abusing her ……Then if ur husband cheat on you divorce him immediately
Wow…
And when u wife charts too pls 4give her ho
How do u forgive a man DAT is not repented? Forgiveness is given when change n honesty is seen u r the ones spoiling dis men.this is y they will keep cheating. How do we raise godly sons?a broken vow is like been born again n living in sin
Great
BUT I AIN’T GOD.
Hilda”d man u heard isosiya for where is he? Did you forgive him? So wat a hell ar u talking about here?
You are an idiot for saying that rubbish. Do you have to insult the woman?
Did she force u to take her advice?
U really need to grow up and stop displaying ur immaturity and bad upbringing on social media.
Chinwe Abigail Asu u don’t have work …..only commenting on people’s opinion nd insulting them. Why not give ur own nd let them be
Chinwe Asu thunder will strike ur entire generation. Watch and see. Imagine her talk! Giv your own opinion and go to hell. So i lied over wat i said about Isosiya her son?
Back to sender!
Crazy!!!!
Thank you ma. Immaturity is when you walk out. Not saying cheating isn’t bad but forgiveness is divine. Nice piece ma.
Good Advice
If Una like make Una hear if we cheat forgive us,if u can’t forgive us anything Una like make Una do. Go marry another man he go still cheat pursue am again marry another one e go still do am,na u De loose De go,so if u find urself in dis kind of issues just forgive and pray for us no be our fault na Una sisters De cause am,nowadays we no De force them na dem De bring the tin come give us.
Oya na, dey cheat dey go until u die of STD. Anuofia!!!
Story condom De, and I love my wife I also love my life. Anuofia!!!
Ifeanyi Justin ..can u Jo’s listen to ur self???real men love & respect their wives….not u bieng proud of al ur cheap halorts u slip with.u better change,cos some day u might end up in a bottle& remain slave to DAT unknown woman for d rest of ur life,then ur wife & children will be in pains
Well done
I can’t believe I was able to read ur comment…I feel sick for u ..go ahead abi e no be u go after them abi ?? Abi condom be 100000% save right?? …I only pray for the day the condom will drop to 99% …and for that 1% u learn the lesson of ur life… I pray for ur wife.
I love my woman, cheating on her will hurt her so much, so i cannot do it.
Do u know u are just an idiot,
Temptations comes sometimes and if I fall into it doesn’t mean I don’t love my wife or cherish my family. After all in all the bible na only Joseph escape. See as women De talk can’t you forgive your man if he does it.
Routine meat the swell Belle my brother try to the reject am Abeg, na routine meat dem the come give you sooo my brother.
Madam truth is always bitter,have seen a woman who cheat on her husband and he forgave her, but when it comes to women forgiving men for same issue you start hearing bla bla bls
HIV is waiting for you…that’s if you don’t have it already!
Ifeanyi, would you forgive and forget if a man throws himself at your wife and she falls for him? If you say yes, then I will also encourage her to forgive you too when you slip and fall ?
Keep cheating . What sort of temptation. If Jesus can over come temptation from devil himself them who are you not to resist that of mere flesh . 10 mins enjoyment . You are really telling and proofing to us that you will be a full time cheat to your wife. If your gf cheat on you will you forgive her ?
HIV, Aids, gono, and other diseases awaits you if you keep cheating . You better amend or rethink
E De happen, there is nothing new under the sun, I don’t pray for it to happen to us but if happens we are all Human, we will work it out for the sake of our children and for the fact that I love her.
whc hiv nd aids and other diseases when condom dey, it takes the grace if God for men to escape woman sexual advances especially those guys that are married and women self no try how can you be dating a married man yet you are expecting a husband no be our fault especially the handsome guys even house wife the fuck join
Gdmorning ma
Nice to see ur face again
Nollywood don come again… The world hasn’t bin fair to ‘WOMAN’ since d days of Adam and Eve, our reward is in Heaven.. Ma, if u cheat on ur husband, will he forgive u?
Na una put d world upside down when eve was deceived.
Men are men they think the world is for them only.. they want to mistreat women
na eve cos ham if she didn’t accept the serpent offer the could have been no shit
IF SHE CHEAT ON HER HUSBAND FAMILY MEMBERS GO INVOLVED O,AND THERE IS NO FORGIVENESS THERE OOOO,LOL
Babe, just say the world has not been fair to you and not the entire women. Women are the most fortunate creatures ever. Some women even command respect more than men. they are women you can never intimidate. If you doubt, ask Okonjo Iweala or Linda Ikeji.
Well that’s the question…Will he?!!!!
Madam all dis new generation girls will not forgive ooo, a generation dat gave birth to a girl child before dre mother, dey Wil give u reasons why dey wunt forgive, n even do back, some even see forgiveness as a sin, so alow dem, pls if ur man cheats on u, shoot him or cheat back, dats wot dey want to hear.
When your husband cheats on you pack out if the house. Simple! She advised based on what she knows, if you know beta, do it yourself own way, stop insulting her. Little wonder if you all are packing out, why are girls still praying to get married.? If because he cheats, u pack out.
Abi tell them. I will not live my husband because he cheat on me I go stay the house. if he tire he go stop
Yea
Yes, nature didn’t wire man to stick to one.
Hahahahahahahahhaha!
Hmmmm@Bunmi Odeleye
I no fit shout o
Code.
In the bible, cheating is the only ground for divorce. The Bible says if you cannot forgive then go ahead and divorce but you shall never remarry except your spouse dies. So there is an option of forgive or divorce. Don’t get it twisted.
No ma
Yes ma. Read your bible. Matthew 19:9 – And I say unto you,
Whosoever shall put away his wife, except
[it be] for FORNICATION and shall marry
another, committeth adultery: and whoso
marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Mama . Dis one no enter ooh for me I fit forgive my wife for cheating on me but I no fit forget . So I can’t even eat her food or touch anything about her . So is better she lives my house in peace or live like chiboko girls … I can’t force her or beat her to live my house . but she will have no option but to live cos she is my enemy … my opinion don’t get me wrong
Than you don’t love her in the first place
But you will expect her to forgive you ?
If she like but I no is that she never forget it
See your life???dats y ur like this.keep forgiving
Someone like me always forgive easy but to forget is hard for me to do . All am saying is that if your wife or your husband have the heart to cheat on your . It may kill your one day so if my wife cheat on me . Please let her go ? God no be man
Than you have not forgiven at all
Hmmm
true talk my own Hus is a dog in the house but am still staying wit him.
Even the bible is clear on the consequences of adultery. That is how much God detests deception!! Some women are in psychiatric homes, some down with various forms of diseases, some are single mothers for the fair of harm from strange women, some thrown out of their homes, some endure physical abuse, some have met their untimely deaths all because of strange women and I can go on and on! So Ma, God knew when he gave divorce as a way out of adultery.
My sis God bless u
You plan to stay with a man and he’s busy planning to leave you for a richer girl and even forget he had plans with you and finally his plans didn’t work out and he comes back like a prodigal Son. Quite hard to forgive sha but we still forgive but we don’t forget
Hilda if I marry someone like dangota I can forgive him lol
Forgive ke.wat is it dat d oda woman has dat I don’t have.
Then is better u quit the marriage and remain single or u go marry to another one who will never cheat on u.
Sure I will quit.and re- marry
If your husband cheat on you you divorce him how many men you won marry or if you get married to another man he will not cheat on you abi? I support you i will forgive him and continue the marriage o I pray I don’t get married to a cheat.
More over d bible said it already dat we shldnt remarry if divorced on d grounds of adultery …so my dear, it only help one even live ryt for God
But when ur woman cheats on u???
Yes its true , to heir is human and to forgive is divine
Want Of if woman chatting on man
Easier say than done ,when a husband cheat,it kills the love ,reduce the trust to zero.
This woman too. Fine… Ah swear
Cheating even in relationship is very bad not to talk of marriage. I equally know that a cheat will always be a cheat but some women drives there men into cheating. Women should always make there man there best friend and take care of them the way the take care of themselves.On a lighter note,will you remain in the man’s house or go back to Ur parent’s house for those shouting that they won’t forgive.
What about the one u truly taking cari of, the way u do to ur self, yet he keep cheating on his wife, when u ask him he will tell u sorry i don’t have parmenet girl friend is one on the Rood he use to do,, So what will u do?
Then you know he is sick.All you have to do is to take his case to God.
When ur wife cheat on u forgive her don’t leave
I don’t think cheating comes wit d “I do” package.. once u say I do it’s official
I so much love my woman, she is so tender and delicate, cheating on her will break her and i will not cheat on her. She is my life
Onye k’anyi ga aju? And hope it’s just one woman that you were referring to?????
Hahahahaha Chinwendu Judith Obierefu. I am referring to one woman. Infact the only woman in my life . Inbox me and i will tell you. She is so delicate, tender, sweet,. Cheating on her will break her. I have already promised her that i will not hurt her.
Make I inbox you eekwa? When my inbox is starring at you right on the face? Okay ooh???
Hahahahaha. Lawyer, u don carry come
Wen u evn forgv ,z nt all of dem dt wl stop cos d mad one wl always say dt she wl still forgv him again nxt time.For me evn if i forgv,i cant forget and i wl nt love like b4.There s a woman in my place dt each time she caught her hubby cheating he wl buy her something and continue.First he bought her machine,second dead car,third was phone.The fool likes material tins more dan d marriage i guess.
If you leave him or her,won’t you marry another? If you do you have committed adultery is better you stay put pray to God to change the person.
God himself will not be happy with you if u forgive him . Read your bible madam .
Cheating goes deep,it destroys her inner peace, when he is out,her mind is up wondering what he is doing nd with who,or if he is even safe while cheating on her sef,if he return home,quarrel, fight, no peace at home,she will forgive nd remain with him but she will never forget especially those men that are unrepentant, they keep going back bcos they kno,she will forgive him,,,b4 U kno she will stop loving him,nd start seeing him like a baby daddy,a room mate…. A lot of women today are in an bad marriages cos they don’t want pple to judge dem,that’s Y U see a lot of women cheating nd fuckin upadan especially those ones that don’t av any kind of tradition that’s against such…… Nd apart from all that,what about diseases?
Abeg cheating is bad,what are U looking for? Maintain Ur wife as those girls maintain…… If U are a man,stop cheating, Y put Ur life nd family at risk for moments of fun? Nd there is nofin as a peaceful home,many marriages today na manage not marriage
Yes oo sis,some marriage are manage ooo
Tnx dear.. U were rily explicit, u said it alllll!
Good talk. But wats d solution
You nailed it.hope people will make out time and read your comment.God bless you for this.
I will copy your comment for a teaching that I’m doing thatz coming up soon.
Yes you have a point nobody is perfect we re all working towards perfection.
U are right, we should 4give & 4get.
God bless you mum
Where have u been?
Bible knows…y it say only adulatory will make u do away ur partner he or she can carry sickness..and give to u..if u like forgive dat ur business… marriage is never better for worst in terms of cheating an can never be.
Yes true talk
This should actually go for the men. Women always forgive
True talk from a wise woman. Family first. I pray the man in question is sincerely sorry, if he is… Why not? Surely forgiveness should come in so as to give him peace. But…. When hubby naa player and goal keeper hmmmm pray for ur home and if he continues forgive him and live ur life with ur children WOMAN!!! And let God do d rest.
Mummy d orignal….my woman crush i heart you so much….can’t wait to be on dsame set wiv u as ur daughter
Gud to forgive
YES FORGIVE, IF HE APOLOGIZES, & IF YOU’VE BEEN FAITHFUL SURELY ,GOD WILL DO THE REVENGE/PUNISHING, HE CANNOT GO FREE, HE HAS TO PAY A PRICE SOMEHOW, BELIEVE IN HIS WORD VEGEANCE IS MINE SAYS THE LORD OF HOSTS.(HALLELUYA SOMEBODY (Y)
dis was how my frnd’s dad was womanizin even openin business for his numerous concubines,his wife(my frnds mother)was 4givin him n endurin everytin until d man(my frnds fada)contractd hiv n transmittd to his wife….dman is dead now n d woman is livin wit d stigma 4d rest of her life….our african men shuld fear God n stop supportin evil
Yes oo
Cheating is a very delicate issue that needs to be traded with caution either in marital life nor in relationship. It only takes a forgiving heart to forgive his or her spouse and also at the same time forget. One thing in this life is to forgive, and the other is also to forget.
It is easy to say but difficult to act. Its just by Gods grace we can endure it
Forgive him an pray 4 him,there is no perfect man,the devil u know is better than the angel u dont knw,my pastor always told us with prayer God will change him to the type of husband u want him to be,so prayer is the key to that type of husband nt divorce,if this one bad in this aspect,may be the new u will marry will be worster than the old one,so u will keep on divorcing,may it nt be our portion IJN AMEN
Devil can never be better than an Angel. Even if you have known him for a billion years. Unless you just want to know something no matter what the price may be. Then yes, you can choose to surffer with devil cos you can’t be alone while looking to meet an angel.
May divorce not be our portion but cheating which is worse than divorce should be accepted and endured. If your wife cheats on you, would you accept this same advice you are giving?
That is ur own understanding
Sorry am nt a man,my sister there is no perfect man on earth eventhou u marry a bishop,prayer is key,so u advice people to devioce their husband bcos he cheat on them ?smtimes is the foundation we r cming frm that is fighting that marriage
Forgiveness is a must for all born again .nomatter the offence
Any married man or woman who still indulge in extra marital affairs kills himself or herself and even the future of his or her children, well even after being forgiven by the spouse concerned if the person fails to repent and forsakes the sin, Hell is his or her destination because God is not a respecter of any person. Self control and the fear of God can be helpful to the people who are addicted to this.
Stil looking younger
Hmmn
Yeye dey smell.
Hmmmm…it’s a lie . You can lie to him that you have forgiven him but you can’t lie to yourself naw….you can never forget that. When he goes to work your mind still tells you he will cheat again. …and the trust dies .
So the solution is the quit the marriage? After quitting the marriage, will u marry another person who will never cheat on you or u will remain single for the rest of your life?
That’s true beautiful woman. If you don’t forgive God won’t forgive you too.
What if your woman cheats on you ???
How long do we have to keep forgiving ? It’s easier said than done. In a relationship it’s very difficult to forgive not to talk of marriage . By the way why would he cheat in the first place ? What’s different from his wife’ s p***y with the girl he cheated with ? Wasn’t the wife good enough for him before he married her ? Abeg don’t tell us that o. I will forgive but can never forget it so what’s the point of forgiving ?
The same bible says DIVORCE him/her on the grounds of adultery..There’s nothing like trust or forgiveness in infidelity, the same men can’t forgive so why do you want us to forgive n forget? Cheating is a slap on the face and makes one have low self esteem..Madam pls have several seats.
Y’all like taking things too seriously. She’s just kidding….pulling your legs…trying to see how y’all will react. Lolzzzzz.
Truth be told if you love him or her is easy to forgive even 70 x 70 times .
I love dis woman, my no 1 actress in nollywood
You go forgive person way cheat you
Mmmmm
husbands are scars oh women if you like take her advise if not they are women on the queue waiting to say yes to your man
My point exactly! Dats wat z getting into dere heads .. ‘men r scarce’ bla bla bla.. Biko deres some1 Itching to av dat woman uv got too
I agree totally with her as divorce is not the solution ,who told you your next husband will not cheat ? If you know you can’t forgive a cheating husband don’t marry at all because you will just be wasting your time
Truly d world hasn’t been fair to women. What if a woman cheats? Cal her pple Abi?
I think, it is a usual phenomenon. Most men does that. Out of generosity.
tell them ma
Na her own be that everybody wit dia own
It’s only a woman dat should endure and tolerate any form of indiscipline from a man, even when d man abuses u& cheat on u knowingly,we’re still expected to say Sorry or overlook it. Which life do woman come o..Why can’t it be vice-versa…abi na until d man bring disease come give his wife@home…Man can never accept 1/3 of der act if it’s been done by der wife. God will save all righteous woman sa.
Amen ooo sis
And when the woman cheats on the man, what should d man do?
Chi Chi, d woman will forgive d man and d man will, GBAGHARA the woman. Nne, they said it’s mens world o.
If he s worth the forgiveness
Thanks mummy u are a great teacher
Why the cheat? Pls it’s abomination before God ur creator. Mind urselves.
This is what the Bible say forgive and you will be forgiven thank you mummy for this wonderful advice may God bless u and keep u save
Men do the u do the same
If a woman cheats will the man forgive her?na woman fit to dey receiving and.mewshhhhh
Lolxxx tosan u no E de change
Ooh I love dis woman n I miss her so much
How about when a woman cheats ? Why is it always the men?
Easier said than done
N when ur woman cheat on u what do u do?
This woman beauty no dey fade?
OK..wt if I cheat on him do u really think he will forgive me ???? Nah
Am not against dat o but wen a woman cheats on her hubby dey never 4give d men sends d woman out. Av seen married couples dat av children yet d hubby went and impregnate a girl outside yet d woman forgives but if its d woman d man will never 4give. Dats y I like d white dey don’t joke with d word CHEATING in dia marriages especially dia women 1ce ur caught dey take d necessary action…. Wat am trying 2 say is d African world is against d women. Wat a man does nobody sees it as anything but if d woman does dat same tin its a Taboo. Na wa o my God helps us
Tnk u.. Abeg ur a darling
Ok
Cheating is NOT acceptable from either partner in a relationship. If one of them feels they want to then the relationship should end. Its heartbreaking enough to survive living as it is without added pressure wondering if he is actually working late or out knobing his latest squeeze. I can’t leave my so called partner because I don’t have a job or alternative accommodation.
NYC one
Women now days are cheating more than men, but we still forgive them. Please ladies listen to her advice and remain blessed Amen and please don’t insult me
All dis men calling bible passages now if ur wife cheats on u will u remember does bible versus not wen d man cheats on d woman u pple will rember bible versus and turn 2 pastors over night. Mtchewwwwww
That great of u thanks
That’s correct.God hates divorce. Truth.
Wrong@ Chidon Israel
WHAT OF WHEN YOUR WOMAN CHEATS ON YOU, WHAT WILL THE MAN DO?
u try oyoma siwa
If she cheats on u nko?
Av got nothing against that,except the same goes for women too!
Cry cry mama
U re a mother
Nice one MAMA
Is true
What about women
Why would the man ever think of cheating. It is good to forgive but that one might be too tough to forgive
Dump him
That’s ok! But my question is would the woman also be forgiven if she cheats? The man will never let it go! Never! Women, its a mans world o. So make sure u get a life of ur own even if u r married! Bcos if u leave am when he cheat, na u go suffer am pass. In matter of months he will re marry. Do life the Igbo woman style. Enjoy ur life and leave very little room for anyone to hurt u. Most men cannot be satisfied!
It is said the more ladies add in age the more their beauty fades up.
But this woman hunn.
I don’t really know how come her beauty refuse to fade up
Cheating is not only through sex. Some of us get this twisted many a times. Besides it’s not only men who cheats, women does same. In my opinion, There’s only one solution when cheating creeps into a relationship/marriage, walk away.
True.
Hilda. Good to see. St. Mary’s 77
Correct mum
Correct
God bless u am thanks alot
Is it only men that cheat?
Easy to say than done….u dont practice what u act. I know u too well.
For Some ladies here dat did nt agree to wht she said… Pls if he cheats on u kindly pickup ur bag nd move back to ur father’s house!! ✊✋
Gud one there
You are right ma…becos women are the cause of man suffering today…woman deceived Adam to eat from the forbidden fruits….
Nobody has the right to cheat in a relationship,be it male or female.
Ok ma well done we’ve heard
I support dt, there are other ways of a settling matters
But when a woman cheats leave her what a life.
OK what about if your wife cheat on you cuz I love that part too lol
Alwaes a buwtyful soul in movies.
Easy for u to say ma
Vice versa….. If a wife cheats, husbands too should forgivemoving on…
What of we the women
So much cherish u,hilda
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That’s God, and even God use wisdom…
We are africans remember
Sure word
Forgiveness is the only cure to heart breaks. You are correct Ma. I was once a victim but by God’s grace I forgave with all my heart, today I am happy.
God bless u Vivian people don’t still understand life.
The best way to teach cheaters lesson is to cheat bac
Haaaaa
Bros you are correct but if we keep divorcing because of unfaithfulness, that means everyone will remain single.
So true ma
Well I certainly don’t agree with this woman . If one has been cheated before then they know how it feels like.
From the bigging I love , everything about you
The issue is not forgiveness but the person. The person must admits full responsibility of the wrong and repent, then forgiveness will be meaningful.
Yes ooooooooo
She has her strong reasons of saying that
This is true
If your man cheat on you, just park out of his house. Divorce him and send him to jail.
Lol..so.he can do anoda one..good thought
Fine woman
Ím
Yes u re right so dat there will be peace, but u should let him to understand dat u re a wear of what he does
You have a large heart… I’m touched down to my bone let me open my eyes very well and see if I can forgive too… E no easy fa
And when he cheats again and again again, forgive him again and again and again and when he eventually afflict you with diseases forgive him still and regret why you never left when he cheated on you the first time hahhahahaah am outta here
Yah it’s true mama thanks for that comment
Hilda , you are always an inspiration to human race and may you see God as your heart and words depict in all your deeds
wat of when ‘she’ cheats?
Experience they say, is the best teacher.
Am yet to knw Y it must always be the woman that wl forgive an adulterous man. Y a woman shd always be the one undergoing heart attack. Una dey craze? To tell me to forgive a man who intentionally commits evil.
Tell yourself that. People should be realistic. Why cheat? If you could not mind to hurt her, why want to be near her, so that every look at you will remind her of the pain. Anger and hurt killing her. She turns to a different person because of her pain, she nags, disrespect you, distrust you, deny you of sex because she can’t stand you near her seeing you with another woman and the thought of infections too. She feels a great void and pains, wants it all to go away. Some feels like cheating back will take the pain away, give them closure and bring them peace and when a woman cheats back, the family is completely ruined.
Not good for children seeing their parent fight always and they wouldn’t know the reason and the case of disease in this era of contagious disease should be greatly avoided. Its good for one parent to stay alive to take care of the children in case of disease. When one parent is careless, the other should divorce him so that she can care for the children in case of death of HIV etc out they.
There is nothing like not forgiving, but living with the person is the problem. And you all that talks of the person that divorces a partner because of cheat commits adultery when marry another should go back and read the bible again. Matthew 19: 8
A woman who wasn’t a virgin bfr got married to her husband is also complaining abt cheating. Why can’t u ladies keep your virginity till marriage ?that one is not also a cheat ?
There are many scenariors where a woman gets married as a virgin and yet her husband still spites and cheats on her.
Lovely
You are a lovely woman I like you I wish to meet you one day
Is easy for we women to forgive nt it’s hard for men……….this is really not fair.but since God forgave me of my sins who am I not to forgive l.
@ Vivian amy i dnt think you study ur bible, d bible allows separation when spouses cheat(adultery) @ monday u are wrong when dey wnt to stone d woman my JESUS intervene nd dia own sin did nt allow dem to punish her nd dey left in shame. My fellow women marriage is nt a tick to heaven is better for u to be alive nd take care of ur children from a distance dan living under dsame roof wt a cheat nd carry disease n die. Heaven may nt even forgive u cos u r nt wise.
Omg,see dis woman…..where have you been,i luv u so much.
What about the man can he forgive
yes you forgive but equally let him know how he has injured you.